The Relapse of The Anti-Feminist

In light of what's happening in our blessed nation, the brutality inflicted on small kids, how people can even do something so heinous and still live with themselves is beyond me. Now I am no expert on criminal psych, so I don't have much to say on that account apart from 2 words, Hang him!, But I do have something to say on the feeling of feminism which is visible evidently post such crimes.

I won't campaign for gender equality! Crazy huh? coming from me, who's been howling about  better treatment of women all this while, rather obnoxiously? When one speaks of gender equality, it equates to men and women having, equal rights, same social standing and being treated the same. While I agree on the first 2 accounts, the third I'm a little skeptical about and here's why. Well, to begin with, I don't want to be treated like a man, an opinion I think most women would agree to I believe or rather hope. It's pretty simple actually. I am not a man, I don't have the same needs, so don't treat me like one. Yes, respect my space, treat me right according to my needs, rest I can deal with.

The one's leading these "treat us the same" campaigns, are the one's who'll expect a man to give up his seat in a crowded bus, open doors for 'em, jump the queue, get the picture, right?

At the risk of sounding "anti-feminist", I am not even remotely ashamed to admit that there are many things in my life which I wouldn't be able to do without the help of a man. Simply shooting down ideas and opinions that don't sound pro-women is pointless and this non nonsensical feminist ideologies are what give me sleepless nights (only when I am downloading Grey's Anatomy episodes) 
All I am saying is, the easiest way to end this tirade between genders, is to treat them as individuals, see what you like or hate about them, before stereotyping them based on their gender. And this is for both men and women!

Celebrating womanhood is a great thing, but this kind of mob mentality and needless demands aren't going to serve any purpose. Instead one could just focus on making the best of what one has,you would achieve much more because you would shirk the fixed notions of how much you’re supposed to have achieved. By doing this, you wouldn't just be getting your life in order but set a precedent for others to follow.
Just accept that there are certain things that the men in your life do it better than you, whether its cooking or driving (I can see my brothers taking a victory lap,Idiots!), instead of contesting and challenging their every accomplishment, just saying, we could co-exist more happily. But if you keep doing things, just to prove that you're better than him, in Marlyin Monroe's words "Women who try to be like men, lack ambition".

Yesterday Today Tomorrow

I miss a lot of  things in life.. people mostly, but there are some experiences you have, that are just so awesome, that they never repeat themselves. Well a major contributing factor of course is the people you had these experiences with.

And you know, the crappiest part is, As you're traipsing down sweet la-la memory lane, you end up missing all of this even more when you are certain that there is no chance of it happening, atleast in the next 10 mins(the phase where you're feeling a little emotional and nostalgia just keeps crashing over you)

So things that I miss :

 Rains, now rains are so goodamn apt for this "I miss you/that" mood, you can't help but think that way, its all gloomy and clammy, the ambiance is set. And the Chai Pakode, there's some bizarre excitement and enthusiasm that these hot,greasy treats bring out in you. Oh and my favorite singing and dancing in the rain endlessly whilst stuck in rains in the middle of nowhere.

Beaches, I don't know, is it the never ending expanse of sky and sea, the calm or what, it's bound to take you down that memory lane. The crooked sand castles you made and proudly posed with for numerous photos as a kid, getting drenched in the middle of crazy waves, floating around driving life guards crazy, burying people under blankets of sand. and drawing weird (at times questionable) things on them.

Inbox, messages of yesteryear's ,plans, conversations, conspiracies, birthday wishes, tiffs, true confessions (not the kind that's doing the rounds on FB nowadays ), just makes you replay all those times, those moments with the whole picture being painted, like it just happened yesterday- those secret "hideout spots", making up spooky tales, early morning return after insane birthdays and Niteouts (don't ask ;) ) and  night-in's usually involving a movie marathon, some chai-biskoot and loads of Maggi.

Now saying that I miss just these times, would be the understatement of the century. But as much I miss 'em, I look forward to making new memories and newer experiences with people I have met and I will meet. Because you're only moving forward, when you're looking ahead. So yes, a little measure of nostalgia for the soul and we're back to the present. It's like how Master Oogway says (Kung Fu Panda fan here!)

"Yesterday is history, Tomorrow is mystery
Today...is a gift!! That's why it's called the present.."

More than strangers

People who you've never met, never seen them beyond their social network DP's (most are photoshopped to perfection ), some you give a second glance else it's business as usual.
In the last couple of months, I've had the pleasure of knowing a few of these strangers. A pleasure, I'd say cause meeting them has been nothing short of awesomeness. Now this usually doesn't happen. For many reasons : 1) being yourself is too mainstream, although people may scream about it from their rooftops, saying it and actually doing it are 2 entirely different concepts that some bozos can never grasp. 2) people have way too much time on their hands to tell random people thing like "Hi, will you fraand me, I am cool and smart" , yes this an excerpt from a message, it happened, for real.

Anyhow, screw the bozos, about the awesome strangers I met and yet to meet a couple of 'em, in the journey of pursuing a common goal. What amazed me was that, there wasn't just a match in the way we thought but also in a way the kind of lives we've lead, the people we've met among other things.
Now this was exciting because, because they had so much to share, teach and experience, we did it together and how!
And until very recently, I hadn't met any of 'em, and when I did, it was just a validation of everything I had thought about them. I still stand by the idea that friends I've made till now are my friends for eternity but that doesn't mean I couldn't have more on board.
That instant click, that connection, wavelength match is something you are always looking out for or rather should look out for, that's where and when the magic happens

So the next time you meet somebody who you don't know too well, or before you turn away before getting a chance to know 'em, think again! Who knows, they might just turn out to be more than strangers

P.S. No, I am not asking you to accept "Fraaandhip requests!!! Please by all means Ignore 'em and Block 'em. Cheers